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 Jealousy Pawn (n): a man who is used by a woman as social validation in front of an individual or group in order to elicit jealousy.
Some women have the need to place men into social situations that will stir up jealousy in others. Women will invite you for a drink, a dinner, or just to hang out, and out of no-where appears a guy (for example) who's wondering why the girl he's obviously interested in is busy in conversation with another male.
I was out a few years ago with a female friend eating dinner. She was newly separated from her boyfriend of many years. Just a simple, one-on-one dinner catching up. About 10 minutes into the dinner, the ex-boyfriend shows up and slides into the booth next to her. She never spoke of having invited a third party-- her ex, at that-- ahead of time. The awkwardness of a third person suddenly joining our private conversation was considerable. So, did she just simply forget to tell you that she also invited her ex to your dinner? Hardly. She invited me to serve a distinct role as a Jealousy Pawn to create jealous attraction in her ex. And the funny thing is? It worked, apparently. They're married today with two kids. Another example is inviting a man that the woman has no desire in to a function, other than to show others the kind of catch she's made. The poor guy comes along, thinking that she is interested in him. He'll soon be left confused and disappointed when she kisses him on the cheek goodnight. She'll sleep well that night, however, knowing that she "showed them" that she too is desired by men or can nab a good-looking fellow. You've just been "pawned." So, have you been played as a Jealousy Pawn in the past? If not, look out for it. And if you see it developing in front of your eyes, call her out on it and exit the scene.
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